It's a natural human tendency to be curious of what could it be if not what it is at present.........and to live in that illusion is a bliss!!
I recommend you don't flip to the next blog as of yet, thinking that if you are not one cross dresser you can ignore this. dual meanings my friend!!
So do you find men who dress up as women kitsch, oddballs ,outrageously kinky? Next time you make a practical joke on one of your self confessing friend stop and think. Has there never been atime when you have changed from your natural skin to an unnatural ,transient hide? not just changed into it but found it more comforting and somehow like a resort from the usual self......huh?
believe me , its absolutely natural to be somebody you are not or you just cant be in most situations, its like escaping with an evasive answer to the circumstances rather than coming out in the open( we do that rarely).
what do i have here to offer in today's confession.... certain tips to cross dress..... This is one trait of mine that I am not guilty of . I can safely proclaim myself the queen of this art as I have been successful in creating a completely misunderstood(or lets say incomprehensible) alter ego.
When it comes to my social circle I have safely classified people in different radii...and its not the subconscious classification, the kind that we come across in simple human psychology, its the more complicated than it seems.... strangers, acquaintance, friends, real friends and then of course the best friends.......... perplexed?
Its not that I am telling you to become a hypocrite or an absolute fakolina,(I abhor that kind), Its more about your comfort level and how to draw a line between self and all that is uncalled for and it saves you a lot of unwanted troubles of saying hollow hellos, waving frail byes and smiling unwillingly......... you don't have to do that. In short its about clearing the clutter, cutting the crap!!
Socializing i believe has become a stress of sorts, its an absolute mania and hell it does matter when you are a bit of a popular figure in your own small circle....lets say like a lesser known celeb....the prettiest girl in the group, the talented band guitarist, the smart charming event organizer,the impeccable leader ......generally with such a pseudo status comes the need for a pseudo attitude that fits the bill. There's this itch to perfectly fit into the cast that we have made out of external factors and internal insecurities.... 'the crafted image' and then you start behaving as people would expect you to.
you dress up as they require you to , so on a moody blues day when you would rather get out of your bed and drive straight to college for the sake of it, you find yourself being dragged to the closet to fish out the best pair of jeans, the branded tee , haggardly search for your glares , put them on along with a fake smile and start the drama that lasts the whole day!!...perrrr...fect, and then you become so comfortable with that image that you confuse it with the real you and that's when the whole trouble begins...so you see cross dressing can actually grow on you and then entangle you in its mess..
I have been doing this for ages now....in fact i guess I have been doing this since kindergaden , why and how ? it's another story but since I have been hanging around for so long I got an insight into the complications and the consequences a tad bit earlier than most of us. Adolescence taught me how to walk out of the mess while child hood had actually pushed me into it, more so because childhood was not much of a dream and I discovered more of self in the troubled years( not in my case).
so lets stop yapping about my personal miseries,( just because I am confessing doesn't mean that you have to know the whole story :p)
The Dos and the Dont s:
first of all, keep one thing in mind: 'you are not as important as you think you are'... dress down your ego a bit and let go, It doesn't have to be all perfect all the time, so act a little natural (oxymoron , huh?);)... more than half the people would not even remember your name if you disappear out of their sights for a week or two.
next , remember the purpose of wearing that artificial attire, its ephemeral ecstasy and content and if you are felling any other way, just drop it there and then.obviously its like wed,, you can get high on it once in a while but ultimately it might just be fatal. don't get addicted.
As soon as you star being extra pally to people who you don't even remember seeing the last time, back off, do a reality check, the most important factor on the list:' Am I sacrificing something more important ?' if the answer is no , get back and start it from where you left it else just excuse yourself and run away without looking back (you need not excuse yourself if you don't feel like it :) )
Once in a while go to the people who know who you are and get a dose of reality, the real friends, the best friends, siblings, parents..or who ever you think it is who might just pump out the extra air in your head :p
take complements as they come your way, avoid being driven by them, praise and flattery need to be segregated from each other.
Ultimately find time for your own little indulgence, your time, your hobbies , your ideas, introspect. If you are a rock band guitarist you don't have to abhor old classic Bollywood tunes, or just because you are the tom boy doesn't have to mean that you have to hate love stories or that you cant dress girly once in a while. try not to typify yourself, leave that inane job to others around you.
Well that's all, Its not a vice to create an image in fact a very genuine and intellectual man once told me,"humans wear three skins epidermis, meso dermis and en dermis......... I prefer meso dermis" ;)...
so now you can go and experiment a bit, ready get set, cross dress :D
I recommend you don't flip to the next blog as of yet, thinking that if you are not one cross dresser you can ignore this. dual meanings my friend!!
So do you find men who dress up as women kitsch, oddballs ,outrageously kinky? Next time you make a practical joke on one of your self confessing friend stop and think. Has there never been atime when you have changed from your natural skin to an unnatural ,transient hide? not just changed into it but found it more comforting and somehow like a resort from the usual self......huh?
believe me , its absolutely natural to be somebody you are not or you just cant be in most situations, its like escaping with an evasive answer to the circumstances rather than coming out in the open( we do that rarely).
what do i have here to offer in today's confession.... certain tips to cross dress..... This is one trait of mine that I am not guilty of . I can safely proclaim myself the queen of this art as I have been successful in creating a completely misunderstood(or lets say incomprehensible) alter ego.
When it comes to my social circle I have safely classified people in different radii...and its not the subconscious classification, the kind that we come across in simple human psychology, its the more complicated than it seems.... strangers, acquaintance, friends, real friends and then of course the best friends.......... perplexed?
Its not that I am telling you to become a hypocrite or an absolute fakolina,(I abhor that kind), Its more about your comfort level and how to draw a line between self and all that is uncalled for and it saves you a lot of unwanted troubles of saying hollow hellos, waving frail byes and smiling unwillingly......... you don't have to do that. In short its about clearing the clutter, cutting the crap!!
Socializing i believe has become a stress of sorts, its an absolute mania and hell it does matter when you are a bit of a popular figure in your own small circle....lets say like a lesser known celeb....the prettiest girl in the group, the talented band guitarist, the smart charming event organizer,the impeccable leader ......generally with such a pseudo status comes the need for a pseudo attitude that fits the bill. There's this itch to perfectly fit into the cast that we have made out of external factors and internal insecurities.... 'the crafted image' and then you start behaving as people would expect you to.
you dress up as they require you to , so on a moody blues day when you would rather get out of your bed and drive straight to college for the sake of it, you find yourself being dragged to the closet to fish out the best pair of jeans, the branded tee , haggardly search for your glares , put them on along with a fake smile and start the drama that lasts the whole day!!...perrrr...fect, and then you become so comfortable with that image that you confuse it with the real you and that's when the whole trouble begins...so you see cross dressing can actually grow on you and then entangle you in its mess..
I have been doing this for ages now....in fact i guess I have been doing this since kindergaden , why and how ? it's another story but since I have been hanging around for so long I got an insight into the complications and the consequences a tad bit earlier than most of us. Adolescence taught me how to walk out of the mess while child hood had actually pushed me into it, more so because childhood was not much of a dream and I discovered more of self in the troubled years( not in my case).
so lets stop yapping about my personal miseries,( just because I am confessing doesn't mean that you have to know the whole story :p)
The Dos and the Dont s:
first of all, keep one thing in mind: 'you are not as important as you think you are'... dress down your ego a bit and let go, It doesn't have to be all perfect all the time, so act a little natural (oxymoron , huh?);)... more than half the people would not even remember your name if you disappear out of their sights for a week or two.
next , remember the purpose of wearing that artificial attire, its ephemeral ecstasy and content and if you are felling any other way, just drop it there and then.obviously its like wed,, you can get high on it once in a while but ultimately it might just be fatal. don't get addicted.
As soon as you star being extra pally to people who you don't even remember seeing the last time, back off, do a reality check, the most important factor on the list:' Am I sacrificing something more important ?' if the answer is no , get back and start it from where you left it else just excuse yourself and run away without looking back (you need not excuse yourself if you don't feel like it :) )
Once in a while go to the people who know who you are and get a dose of reality, the real friends, the best friends, siblings, parents..or who ever you think it is who might just pump out the extra air in your head :p
take complements as they come your way, avoid being driven by them, praise and flattery need to be segregated from each other.
Ultimately find time for your own little indulgence, your time, your hobbies , your ideas, introspect. If you are a rock band guitarist you don't have to abhor old classic Bollywood tunes, or just because you are the tom boy doesn't have to mean that you have to hate love stories or that you cant dress girly once in a while. try not to typify yourself, leave that inane job to others around you.
Well that's all, Its not a vice to create an image in fact a very genuine and intellectual man once told me,"humans wear three skins epidermis, meso dermis and en dermis......... I prefer meso dermis" ;)...
so now you can go and experiment a bit, ready get set, cross dress :D
this one was an absolute confession, straight from the heart, and as i said it doesnt really matter what they see you as, what matters is what you see yourself as and then you can decide what do you want to be seen as. :)
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