Men.......Women ...hmm.....

There is tide in the affairs of men,

which taken at the floods leads on to fortunes,

Omitted, all the voyage of their life,

Is bound in shallows and miseries.

                                          Shakespeare

That's a sane advise Mr.Shakespeare, and yes all my lovely ladies ...adhere to it. Yes, Yes we are the young liberated, independent women and we don't really need men to buy us our jewels or pay the rent and keep up with the groceries. we are no longer liabilities and men are not assets ....or maybe they are....but why should we not call them accessories.

all said and done.... the stronger we become the more we need someone to make us feel like women, so while we may scoff and walk away with an airy gesture if a stranger pulls the door for us or calls for the cab , but we do love to see the chivalrous gentleman in the man we call our own. Well i shouldn't forget to mention that its a nice way of sprucing the male ego and giving men a reassurance of sorts.

along with the natural and biological ones, this is one reason why the sexes have not become redundant to each other,... 'YOU pat my back, I'll pat yours'

With this kind of an equation , its easy to live unattached and in a frivolous relationship, no strings attached, no luggage,. It doesn't even matter if you are looking for a companionship which means a a little more salt and pepper than the usual in the recipe for a perfectly platonic relationship. take it a step further and you need much more than that static equilibrium...a dynamic one. 

Men would more than love to take a bimbo by their sides...as they call them ...'trophy wives' the shiny display material which would win them the 'lucky bastard ' tag among their peers. There is an exception of a few.. like the other day a friend told me how he would be stimulated by a woman with some grey matter in her head rather than the myriad hues on the front lobe of either side of the brain..(read make up :p). But most woman want a little more than a fat juicy chicken ready to be feasted upon, obviously there are exceptions in this case too. while all the surveys may tell you that money is a complete turn on, believe me, its not true. If that was the case then the nouveaux riches with loads of fortune and flashy cars and the taste for absolutely crass songs that define women as woofers(sic) would have had a bevy of beauties making a bee line for them 

So ladies and gentlemen keep reading...

Well, if I understand my species right barring a few possible diversions the first and the foremost thing required by women is respect.. for what she is, who she is and what she wants to make out of it. The next step is well obviously...not to take anything that the other person does for granted, and be able to appreciate the efforts and the labour thats put in. Men should learn to live with female angst and should stop complaining that women are losing their femininity, remember we were pulled in to the current by the extremely competitive world where this whirlpool theory of survival came to being...(all thanks to you guys :/).
All the terms put straight ladies? well, here's your part: We are still women and we realize (or should realize ) that the onus of creating a balanced world is on us. we have an innate power to mellow down whatever is stark, that we have been blessed with this ability to forgive. We chose to step into the male dominated world and establish ourselves but to lose our own identity to them would not be right.We can definitely walk in their shoes for several miles but they can't don our stilletoes and exude the grace , the poise that we can. so stick to it.

and as for the first few lines...the catch in today's confession is...know what you want. A last bit of advise that i wanted to drop for the girls out there but it won't really harm if men take a hint too.We all need love but what is the price that we are ready to pay for it?
If you know yourself then probing into the kind of men we want would be easy. We all have that charismatic Mr. right in our thoughts yet we tend to get lost with the wrong ones...?..Accept it.. there's no perfect man on this planet, what makes them perfect is our love for them...and well as I said ..it comes for a little price.
so mark the risks and sail your ship into the sea with the right tide... and then the journey would be ever so enchanting with a few rough waves thrown in( I guarantee the rough waves too;) ).......

and to the gentlemen out there, read this all over again...if you are smart then this might not bruise your egos much and you might find the right tides in there for you ;D